We want to acknowledge to both men and women that this reality is not lost on us and in the work we do.
We live in a world largely designed by men for men, from seat belts to city planning, women’s needs have been left out of the data for decades. Books like Invisible Women have made that painfully clear. But here’s what we are seeing this: while women are missing from data that uplifts, men dominate the data that harms. In India, the numbers paint a clear picture:
4.5 lakh reported cases of crimes against women in 2023.
Nearly 30% of married women experience spousal violence.
97% of substance abuse cases are men.
These numbers show patterns of behaviour, how emotional disconnection and social conditioning spill out into violence, addiction, and control.
If you’ve ever seen our work and wondered “why do we need another space for men, when men already dominate so much of this world?”
you’re absolutely right to ask it.
It’s a necessary and valid question.
Change is urgently needed and it cannot happen without engaging men.
We need men to be a part of the solution.
We strongly believe emotional literacy is crime prevention, our work is about rewiring how men relate to themselves and each other. We create spaces where men can::
recognise when they need help (and actually ask for it),
show up for each other in healthy ways,
call out harmful behaviour for themselves and others,
unpack patriarchy without turning it into a TED Talk,
and model emotional accountability for others.
When men start taking active ownership of their mental health, the effects ripple outward to women, families, workplaces, and entire communities.
Mental health isn’t an excuse for harm, it’s how we stop the cycle before it starts. While inequality hurts women directly, the emotional disconnection men live with keeps that system alive.
We have concerned parents raising boys, siblings worrying about brothers, teachers watching young men disappear behind silence. We have people who care, but not enough of the right tools.
Fight Club aims to change that.
In creating these safe spaces, we are not excusing or justifying harm.
To those who identify as Women reading this:
Your voice matters here. We don’t want you to come fix men or carry the weight, but to help shape what accountability and change can look like together.
Our Miles & Minds events bring men and women together on the ground, where women can witness and contribute to this evolution, without absorbing its emotional labour.
Come explore how we can communicate across the patriarchal scripts we’ve all inherited.
We want a world where men can show up with security and vulnerability, and where women know how to hold space for that shift without losing their own.
If you’re skeptical, that’s okay. We understand. Continue to support the women’s spaces that still need you, there’s still a lot more work to be done there.
We just ask you to stay curious about our work.
We're not sending you on a guilt trip, we're inviting. Even if you think, “I’m not part of the problem,” you’re still part of the equation.
We need more men who model accountability, compassion, emotional awareness, and healthy masculinity. Show up for other men so they don’t have to navigate challenges in isolation, but together.
We don’t need perfect men, we need men who try. Who check in, own their mistakes, call out their friends, and leave fewer emotional messes behind.
Show up for yourself, or for the women who care about you, because the change you make for yourself will inevitably help them too.
If you’ve felt loneliness, anger, numbness, or confusion about relationships and life, these are symptoms of a culture that taught you disconnection and silence as survival.
We want you to be part of the rewiring, to model what healthy masculinity can look like for younger boys, and utilise this space to make it your own through our round table conversations.
It's okay to be skeptical, be unsure, just show up. The only thing we ask is that you stay in the conversation.
To those who identify as Men reading this:
We’re not creating a men’s movement to compete with women’s progress.
We’re creating one that makes women’s progress safer and our communities stronger.
So keep the questions coming. We’ll keep doing the work.
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Emotionally yours,
Fight Club India
